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I am SO upset with some of the comments posted here. Ist Angie and D'Angelo should not give insight on their personal relationship to the world so individuals can discuss and pass judgement. We dont know what the situations are that exist. There r many stories out there. What do we know??? THERE R BIGGER ISSUES N THIZ WORLD. Second, stop playing the blame game. There are plenty of sistas and brothas who have alot going for themselves yet and still LIFE HAPPENS. I have been married 13 years. Did it work? HELL NO! Alot of ppl like to change partners when thingz get a little rough and run to greenier pastures only to find out it may not b that much better. These dayz ALL types of situations/relationships occur. U DO NOT have to be married to raise ur children and be a great parent. I KNOW! Also that doesnt make women sluts and their children bastards. Its all about choices these individuals make. What Im tired of r ppl with their "PERFECT" lives and so called "PERFECT" relationships judging others. Ill say thiz I use to be one til God opened my eyez just by a prayer and revealed to me I wasnt in such a "PERFECT" situation. Remember the old saying: If u cant say anything descent, dont open ur mouth AT ALL.

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I TOTALLY AGREE WITH NATALIE, SISTERS YOUNG AND OLD, I'M 53 YEARS OLD. HAVE THE WEDDING BEFORE THE HONEYMOON.IF YOU DON'T THE CHANCES OF HIM DOING THE RIGHT THING IS NOT HAPPENING. GOOD ADVICE SISTER!

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First of all I want to say that I am disgusted by the downplay of marriage. Marriage is NOT just a peice of paper !! Marriage is a promise and a commitment made before and to GOD witnessed by man and family that two will live and treat each other as one. If vows were taken more seriously there would be no problem what the other is doing because they would feel it was being done to self.

Second, I feel that we ALL, men and women need to use more discrection when choosing a mate. Choose someone who shares more of your values and ideas on raising children. Some might argue that the person changed, I feel that you just didn't know them well enough. The tendacies and sighs where always there, just ignored for our own selfish reasons.

Third, how dare any woman call a man a deadbeat or whatever the word for it is these days when you gave yourself to a man you never knew ?? What does that say about you? Even if he is ( in your opinion)a bum now and was a great guy then, did you bother to find out how he was with or felt about children ? His future ? How was he raised ? Did he exibit signs of being a family man ? Is he GOD fearing ? Most important, did you ever discuss if things did not work out between you and he and children are involved a plan ?? It's so much easier to blame the man than to except your part in all this. It's sad to me how the one blogger said that her childs father is not really involved in her 13 year olds life but has since married and has a new family. I don't see how that makes him a bad guy. I think that those two did not each other well enough to procreate. Maybe he was looking for a wife and a family all along and something was lacking. As far as the child goes, teaching or showing anger towards your bad choice is not going to help the situation. You don't have to lie to your child but making them feel that they are missing out on something cause daddy's a bum is wrong. Being a bastard is not the most terrible thing, if you want to get technical, JESUS was a bastard but to raise a child with resentment is selfish. All your kids should know is that mommy loves you and so does daddy, he is just lost right now but we are going to pray that he finds his way.

I don'tpersonaly know Angie or De'Angelo but I do know fame and money. That man wanted to be a rock star. Anyone with sense knows with that comes partying, drugs, women sex, late nites, and spending long periods of time away from home. That's all part of the life, not everyone can handle it. Even the ones that can often get lost for a moment. By her saying that he needs to get his shit together leads me to beleive that he for the moment is lost. Women, pray for the "him" in your life but most importantly, ask GOD to help you so that you stay strong enough to keep you.

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I apologize for not proof-reading.
I wanted to let all know the choice is ours not the system.
The system can only control if we are put in that situation.
Angie does want De'Angelo, but to change for possibly she sees for him, but De' Angelo has his own life to live and if Angie is not comfortable with, then I think she should move on; because that is true love. Whether you try to change a person or help them change this can be aggravating to both parties concerned then one of the parties should be the mature one to move on.
I say this because my husband was on drugs, I chose to stay and try to change him; but my choice to let him go when I saw he was getting deeper and the I prayed, gave him to God and although it took some, he even got worse and then he got sick, that is when I knew drugs were on the way out and God was in for long haul and I have listen to testimonies that God is, just, believe the unseen and recieve.
TO THINE OWN SELF BE TRUE.

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What are all the comments about "Babymama Drama" all about? She was not speaking in regards to that. It is documented that D'angelo has a very bad Drug problem. Let's give some HandClaps to Natalie and all the women on this board that are married!Marriage to some women is a form of validation, obviously. Angie Stone has assisted in the careers of Alicia Keys, Joe, Anthony Hamilton, and many others through her song writing and music abilities. So I think her status is pretty validated, don't you? I don't usually like to comment on these things, because I am too busy living MY LIFE to even worry about what is going on in a celebrities life! WE DON'T KNOW THESE PEOPLE and THEY DON'T KNOW US!!!!
Also I am from the same area as Angie Stone and I can say also that she is handling her business as a parent as well, she is taking care of family, because her oldest child, a daughter is a graduate of South Carolina State University!!!! She graduated from college about 3 years ago! I did not hear any negative comments about Halle Berry, who is an unwed mother! I love Halle and guess what she commands 20 million or more to do a picture. She does not need a husband to raise that child, the last two black men she had were total butt holes! So what are you saying Natalie? Please stop being judgemental, we really don't know these people to be making such huge judgements on their lives.

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people i really think that you are missing the point of what Natalie was trying to make and this is what i got from it, we as women first of all should not want to be categorized as BABY MAMA and get married before having any man's child like God wants us too, i feel that most men feel more responsible for his family when he is than when he is single , i could be wrong and i know that being married does's always work out either but the LORD

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The funny thing is is that Angie never said why she was upset with D'Angelo, but everyone has already fabricated their own story.

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This story's been told. Yes, all men and women need to be committed to a legal relationship before having kids. It has to do with decency and respect. If folks want to sleep around, that's their business but don't bring a child into it. They don't have a choice. And this is not even about financial support. Kids need guidance and nurturing more than money. Money just covers up things we lack. It's all about love and understanding and if sisters want to continue putting up with men who don't commit and be men, it's their own danm fault! I don't mean this in a dominant way, but men should be head of houshold and give support in all the best ways possible. Some sisters make more money than their man and that is cool. It just has to work as a TEAM. Peace.

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I love angie stone. She is a wonderful singer and I hope she continues to prosper.I recently found out she has a child with d'angelo. I wish them all the best of luck.....

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How many of you actually read the quote? Because no where in the quote is their child mentioned. Readers or should I say haters need to stick to the facts when they read these quotes and decide to blog about them. Maybe, those of you haters wish she was talking about their child and not their own friendship. Please people stop trying to read between the lines.

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