Over the past 10 years, Mo'Nique has become one of the foremost funny-woman in Hollywood.But the plus-sized comedienne's recent revelation of teenage sex abuse is no laughing matter.
In the October issue of 'Essence,' the Baltimore native reveals that she was sexually abused by her brother at the tender age of seven.
"I was molested by my older brother," she tells writer Audrey Edwards during one of her most candid interviews ever. "And even when I confronted him and told my parents, he said I was lying, and nothing was really done."
'The Parkers' star said that her brother molested her four times over the course of four years, using certain tactics such as candy to lure her into the bathroom.
Her parents, she said, were in disbelief, but she didn't hold them accountable "because me and my brother were both their children, and I just don't know the kind of position they felt they were in."
However, the way her parents handled the situation left her bewildered.
"My father was very upset, but it never got mentioned again," she added. "I'll never forget my mother saying, 'If it's true, it will surface again,' and I remember thinking, 'Why would I lie? Why is there even an if in this?' I was angry with them for so long, because I felt as if they should have seen what was happening."
Mo'Nique's alleged sexual abuse came full circle when playing her latest role as an abusive parent in Lee Daniels'; forthcoming film, 'Push.' Based on the seminal 1996 novel of the same name by Sapphire, the story is a graphic account of a young black woman growing up in a cycle of incest and abuse.
"My brother was a monster to me," she commented. "When Lee [Daniels] would say 'Action,' I became my brother."
Her brother, she said went on to serve 15 years in prison for sexually abusing another girl and never made amends for the abuse.
"He still acts like he doesn't know what I'm talking about," she vented in the magazine, which hit newsstands today."So screw hurting your feelings. You need to get your feelings hurt, and you need to get some help."
Mo'Nique, who serves as Guest Editor of the magazine, a special issue dedicated to plus-sized women, admitted to being nervous about telling her painful truth but felt it was her duty.
"It makes me nervous. It's like, Oh, God, what will it do to him when people read this? And then another part of me is like, Goddamn it, it's my obligation to let people know, and to tell women to watch their children."
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By: Lanette on 9/12/2008 8:18PM
what a dumb ass question. she was a kid who told her parents! that should have been enough!! they should have done something. kids don't always know to call the police..
don't blame her, her brother is digusting and dangerous...............
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By: Kim Whitehead on 9/12/2008 10:55PM
It is amazing that so many people voted that Monique should not have told. Seeing that number shows why so many people are screwed up now. Incest is still a taboo issue to talk about in our community. I am sure that the same people who responded no were victims themselves. Sad!
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By: tina on 9/12/2008 11:44PM
WOW. It seems like a lot of people were victims of sexual abuse as children in one form or another. But for your brother to be the one, and your parents not handle it well, must hurt to the core. I have a new respect for Mo'Nique. Coming forward with this is probably therapeudic for her, and I support her decision.
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By: Peaches on 9/13/2008 2:17AM
Mon'Nique is a strong woman and It takes a lot of courage to tell her story. It was not her fault. It is a shame that her parents didnt belive her. She must of felt so helpless and afraid. Stay strong Mo'Nique. You are a beautiful woman.
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By: Autumn on 9/13/2008 3:16AM
It's great that she told us about her tragedy. It only helped her to become a special, influential to me and others. Keep doing your thing Monique..I LOVE YOU MUCH!! :)
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By: Miss Black America on 9/13/2008 3:23AM
I'm not at all shocked at people casting their vote that Monique should not have reported her abuser. They are basically saying, she should not have said ANYTHING period. Should not have told her parents, and should have just kept quiet and gone along with the abuse. Yeap.. that's black folk for ya.
*deep sigh*
In fact in cases like this, the black female is usual made to feel she caused the abuse, brought it on, asked for it. Yes, it's true. That's what Monique's parents did when they didn't act in her favor, when they didn't protect her those "parents" sent the message to her little black girl psyche and subconscious that hey, Monique, you're just a lil' nappy headed black girl and your not worth as much as your brother. You see, it ain't NO secret whatsoever, that the black community doesn't hold their women/girls in high regard. In fact folks, you can do ANYTHING to a black woman/girl in this world and it won't get you in much, if ANY trouble at all. The black female .. will be wholly blamed for your crime against her.
Don't believe me?? Well, look at how Moniques' parents protected their son and left her, their lil' abused black girl child in a incredibly broken, devastated and vulnerable state, to fend for herself, while they saw to the welfare of their son. No way were they gonna allow the "man", the "system" to get to their treasured black boy child. And you know what, time and time and time again with sisters like Monique, you can clearly see the aftermath of what happened to them as little girls, present in their adult life. From the excessive weight and the attitude that it's ALL good, to their shaky and downright foul relationships with men and accumulation of babydaddies.
This is the fate that will and has befallen many a black child and especially black female children in our communities. I can't tell you how many black sisters I've come in contact with that suffered sexual abuse at the hands of bio-fathers, brothers, uncles, cousins, grandfathers, etc., etc. But let blackfolks tell it.. "we" don't do stuff like that, that's them ole nasty whitefolk stuff.. *shaking my head*.
I say, TELL IT Monique, and never stop TELLING it. Every sister that has suffered sexual abuse please TELL IT. For the sake of our precious little black girls everywhere.. TELL, TELL, TELL, TELL IT.
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By: Brenda Stepney on 7/29/2009 9:07PM
that was absolutely so well said and I want to say thank you on behalf of every child who told and was not heard and for those who never did and for those who still go through this living hell even as we speak. God help us.
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By: red on 11/20/2009 4:26PM
Actually, I would also point out the parents did no favors for the brother. He learned from their reaction that it was OK to abuse his sister - which apparently led to at least one other case of abuse which was reported and resulted in 15 years of prison - I wonder how many others weren't reported. I wonder what abuse he suffered while in prison as a sex offender - all because his parents chose not to take action in the beginning. Look, it's hard to deal with, but ignoring it is far worse than confronting it and dealing with it.
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By: Re'nee on 9/13/2008 3:29AM
I think it is no different than a father molesting and abusing thier daughters and step daughters. It happens, but it is sad. I think a lot of people from the south tend to go through this a lot more than poeple up north. I believe it date back to salvery days. Just my humbled opinion! Ad also I commend her for speaking so freely on the subject as I know this
had to be a hard thing to due, but at the same time a burden to finally get off her chest.
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By: vanessa on 9/13/2008 4:28AM
So many children are victimized,and mainly due to poor or no supervision, but as a community,we can help. If you know a family that needs childcare while they work, reach out and be the trustworthy childcare provider and make sure those children don't fall victim to the horrors of abuse.
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