Over the past 10 years, Mo'Nique has become one of the foremost funny-woman in Hollywood.But the plus-sized comedienne's recent revelation of teenage sex abuse is no laughing matter.
In the October issue of 'Essence,' the Baltimore native reveals that she was sexually abused by her brother at the tender age of seven.
"I was molested by my older brother," she tells writer Audrey Edwards during one of her most candid interviews ever. "And even when I confronted him and told my parents, he said I was lying, and nothing was really done."
'The Parkers' star said that her brother molested her four times over the course of four years, using certain tactics such as candy to lure her into the bathroom.
Her parents, she said, were in disbelief, but she didn't hold them accountable "because me and my brother were both their children, and I just don't know the kind of position they felt they were in."
However, the way her parents handled the situation left her bewildered.
"My father was very upset, but it never got mentioned again," she added. "I'll never forget my mother saying, 'If it's true, it will surface again,' and I remember thinking, 'Why would I lie? Why is there even an if in this?' I was angry with them for so long, because I felt as if they should have seen what was happening."
Mo'Nique's alleged sexual abuse came full circle when playing her latest role as an abusive parent in Lee Daniels'; forthcoming film, 'Push.' Based on the seminal 1996 novel of the same name by Sapphire, the story is a graphic account of a young black woman growing up in a cycle of incest and abuse.
"My brother was a monster to me," she commented. "When Lee [Daniels] would say 'Action,' I became my brother."
Her brother, she said went on to serve 15 years in prison for sexually abusing another girl and never made amends for the abuse.
"He still acts like he doesn't know what I'm talking about," she vented in the magazine, which hit newsstands today."So screw hurting your feelings. You need to get your feelings hurt, and you need to get some help."
Mo'Nique, who serves as Guest Editor of the magazine, a special issue dedicated to plus-sized women, admitted to being nervous about telling her painful truth but felt it was her duty.
"It makes me nervous. It's like, Oh, God, what will it do to him when people read this? And then another part of me is like, Goddamn it, it's my obligation to let people know, and to tell women to watch their children."


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By: Sister to Sister on 9/14/2008 2:29PM
Thank you Monique!
Sister you are beautiful
you are loved
you are precious
even though it doesn't feel so
you matter
your pain is felt
far and wide
and is creating a bond of love
that no coward can divide
sometimes
we must walk alone
be alone
grieve alone
fight alone
but know that the spirit of love
that has no face, no home
abounds all around
I wish you could feel it
everyday
every hour
right now
I wish you could know
that this love can heal
and make your beautiful soul
glow once more
tell a friend
tell a stranger
but do TELL
and heal yourself
You did no wrong
and now you can do so much right
by telling your stories
so that this sickness isn't blinded by the night
Stand up
Head high
YOu are loved
I love you all....
Keep surviving and doing more than surviving
thriving
you can help to end this secret shame
as like every evil thing
it deserves to die
God is love
God is truth
God HATES evil
don't protect it
and know that you are innocent
and a part of you untouched
still so pure
as there are some things that can never be taken
and never forsaken
You were not wrong
Even if you felt you 'agreed' because you took
whatever treats were offered
you were a child
and had not the ability to make such a choice
Don't blame yourself
free yourself
and shake that shame
which comes along with it
at the door of your soul
your temple
find the lesson
and be a blessing
to someone else
to yourself
but whatever you do
dear Sister
don't blame yourself
I LOVE YOU ALL!
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By: brownsugar on 9/14/2008 2:31PM
you did what you thought was right it like that these day when some parents dont take thier children srious i have 3 girls and when i have an negative vrilb about something or someone i always ask my girls has anyone or anybody touch them the wrong way let me know i dont care who it is that goes four brother,sis,uncles,cousin,anybody i want too know cause its on im a black single mother with no help at all mother please listern to your children cause we are losing to many and now days we have to watch the father they are mainly the ones hurt our kids to just look at the news all women n chilren are in my prayers
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By: BUBBLY on 9/15/2008 12:00AM
I am seldom shocked when I hear of sexual abuse in families and when you tell the people who there to protect you sweep it udner the rug because a family member is the predator. I have encountered several females&males that have simular stories. Unfortunatly they get away with it because the adult is afraid of confrontation with the family. SHAME on those cowards that would let their child suffer due their fear, and they should live with that GUILT 4EVER. Most victims live with this feeling of shame it messes up their relaionships and and almost always it negativly affects every aspect of their lives! KUDOS 4 U Monique for telling your parents and your fans! You may have helped someone thru a rough patch.....
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By: nelson on 9/15/2008 1:26AM
How old was her brother? Sorry if I missed that. I think it makes a big dif. as far as his responsibility if he was 8 yrs old vs 15 yrs old. I know that doesn't make a dif for her though.
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By: nelson on 9/15/2008 1:27AM
how old was he ?
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By: Cecil Jones on 9/15/2008 6:20AM
Somethings just aren't funny and they never will be. Somethings shouldn't be shared to help others or hurt others. Incest is a crime and it should be investigated to the fullest extent of the law. You have the right to remain silent, but telling a big secret like this shouldn't be used to help someone's career or to justify why they have a bad self-image or low self-esteem. The only "Big Push" MoNique should do in this case it that big push away from her dinner plate. Depression comes in many forms. Telling us what made her depressed isn't an excuse for taking action to fix what truly ails her. Someone may have taken advantage and she choose not to tell, but eating so much food made her butt swell. Directing this pain at someone else isn't the answer to Monique's problems. She is hurting because she remained silent.
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By: Terrenie on 9/15/2008 9:28AM
Sexual abuse is an ugly thing that exist in almost every family. It's something that people don't like to talk about and they keep it hush hush instead of really dealing w/it head on. I think Monique is very brave to share her story w/the world and it could possibly give someone else strength to live through such a devastating abuse of innocence.
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By: Sister to Sister on 9/15/2008 11:02AM
@ cecil jones
This could be her way of dealing with it....
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By: Herman Hill on 9/15/2008 11:31AM
Reading some of the indifferent and insensitive comments here, we as a culturee haven't "turned the corner" yet! Monique was a child that needed protection within her family FIRST! Not having that, where could she turn? it appeared like a hopeless situation that could have turned out differently. Hiding this kind of thing "within" a family system doesn't provide the kind of resolution a child should have.
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By: THEOTHERONE on 9/15/2008 12:50PM
First let me say everyone is entitled to there own pain which no one can deny them of that-your story is your own and you are allowed to talk about, print,etc. based on your life situations, however, anyone who know's the TRUE story will know who I am. You know in life as PARENTS we tend to make decisions based on the information we are working. First of all I do not believe her parents stood by and did NOTHING..I just dont believe it was handled the way she thought it should have been handled. Mo'Nique was to faced with the same challenge with her step son abusing her biological son and her neices.. she made little attempt to resolve situation-. matter of factly I recall her making a statement to her family at the time as such"IF YALL CAN'T EXEPT HIM AND NOT DEAL WITH HIM THAN YALL CAN'T EXEPT ME EITHER. SO here we her having experienced it HERSELF- (abuse-incest) she did no more than her PARENTS did with both children being there biological children-- SO AT THE END OF THE DAY WE NEED TO TELL THE WHOLE STORIE(S)S OF OUR LIVES AND not the cut version --as IF we are THE VICTIM--- ONCE NOT DENYING ANYONE THERE PAIN ---BUT WE ALL HOLD OUR OWN--BUT LETS NOT CONTINUE TO BRING HARM TO OTHER PEOPLE- WHEN WE SEE A NEED TO FREE OURSELVES OR WAS THAT THE INTENT ???
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