By Karu F. Daniels, BlackVoices.com
When it comes to soul surviving, very few entertainers know it like Diahann Carroll knows.
The Bronx, New York born actress is a diva of the highest degree – but don't let her hear you say that. It's a term, according to the August 2008 edition of Vogue, the Tony and Golden Globe Award winner equates to "trash."
In her new memoir, 'The Legs Are The Last To Go: Aging, Acting, Marrying, and Other Things I Learned the Hard Way' (Amistad/Harper Collins), Carroll and all of her splendid grandiosity is on full display, warts and all. And that turns out to be a good thing.
Having starred in the first network sitcom – 'Julia' – revolving around a black woman in 1960s, Carroll went on to gain even more notoriety for playing "the first black 'bitch' in prime-time" in the 1980s.
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"Maybe we need to slow down a little bit and give ourselves a chance to refine something," she added.
When it comes to her new book, where she unflinchingly chronicles her life -- personally and professionally -- Carroll admitted to having to be pulled into the 21st century by her editor Dawn Davis to complete the project, which was six years in the making.
"There's more about it to tell, and each situation there's more about it to tell," she revealed of the page-turning tome that details her tumultuous affair with fellow black Hollywood trailblazer Sidney Poitier, along with other well-guarded nuggets from the golden days of entertainment. "But today you guys are in such a hurry that you want to hear what it was, and to help you to evaluate it on the page is something that I don't think was of interest to anyone. [The goal was to] just tell the story."And tell it she does.
It's been over 20 years since the Academy Award nominee put out her first memoir –during the height of a very successful run on the mega-successful TV show, 'Dynasty.' "The purpose of this [book] is to set the record the straight," she said, then adding, "I mean, how much longer do I have?"
"I think there's some misconceptions, and some of them have to do with my personal life," she furthered. "I hope that everyone understands that men are not questioned about their personal lives as much as women. So if there was a man who was a famous person and he and I were involved, the questions about that involvement are going to be directed towards me not towards him. They'll ask him about his career and his whatever but not his personal life. Very seldom, they may say 'How many children do you have?' and that's it."
"I think the business of setting the record straight is kind of timeless," she continued.
One area of the book which will touch the hearts and souls of many, is the harrowing chapter title "Sickness and Health," where Carroll shares the story of her 1998 breast cancer diagnosis, the ending of her last marriage, and how she sought unconventional treatment in fighting the deadly disease."As soon as you hear 'cancer,' that it's in your body, the first thing you think of is death -- there's a possibility of death," she confided. "And you never had to think of anything in that way before. It's impossible to take it in all at once, it is impossible. If I'm truly dying what do I do? But you really can't attack cancer like that. You cannot feel that it is final, you have to deal with it one step at a time."
October is nationally recognized as Breast Cancer Awareness Month and Carroll has become a staunch activist for the many causes related to education, screening and treatment for the disease, which affects millions of women.
"As I started going to speaking engagements, I had women come over to me and say, 'I wanted to see you and come over today because if you can have breast cancer I know that I can. And I better have a mammogram, because I never had one.' And I thought 'Okay, I'm needed here,'" she said about her staying involved in the cause.
"I talk about my own experience, and about the need for prevention," she writes in 'The Legs...' "The whole world of cancer needs demystifying, particularly in lower-income communities."
Throughout the book, Carroll addresses aging and the art of forgiveness. Her fluid style of prose is so honest that with each flaw she admits to, it feels as if she's asking for it forgiveness herself.
"I think it made some of the things in my personality stronger," she responded when asked whether or not her bout with breast cancer helped her embrace forgiveness. "Whatever it is ... it was a healing for me."
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By: BOBBY C ROBERTS on 10/15/2008 11:42AM
MY, MY, THIS IS STILL A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN, I TOTALLY REMEMBER HER IN TELEVISION, SHE WAS THEN AND STILL IS A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN.
BLACK WOMAN LIKE HER SHOULD BE HELD IN HIGH ESTEEM, BECAUSE THEY KNOW HOW TO BE A WOMAN.
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By: chas jr on 10/15/2008 6:05PM
Class lots of Class thats what I think when I hear her name.
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By: Barbara Smith on 10/15/2008 6:16PM
Ms. Carroll is an excellent example of someone who came to the entertainment field with talent and CLASS and who has never lost either. Considering the social climate ( hatred from BOTH sides of the color line ) she had to weather, she has never lost her style or her poise. She has not been acknowledged as someone who is responsible for opening doors and being a survivor. Even your article did not give an historical context which would have shown how important "Julia" was, not just as a television show
( black, single mother, nurse, living well; years later Cosby was still telling us that intelligent, attractive, successful people/parents exist in black America) but as a truth no one wanted to hear. Vanessa Williams reminds me of the talent and strength of Ms. Carroll. Don't forget - Ms. Carroll was also a noted singer.
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By: Joann smith on 10/16/2008 12:25AM
Ms.Carroll you've been one of my favorite actresses who I admire and respect so much because you have shown us African American Women that we can do anything that we put our minds to doing and achieve it with pride. You are a strong woman and you never let anything stop you from doing what you wanted to do even with all that was going on back in the 1950's and 60's you always kept our head held high and over came all of the negativities that people tried to put ahead of you to pull you down.
I commend and respect you to the fullest and now for me to find out that your a breast cancer survivor makes me respect you even more. I have a lot of breast cancer people in my family and I'm proud to say that alot of them are survivors.Thank you for all that you have given to all of us women with your bueaty, honor, respect, strength, pride and intelligence.
May God continue to bless you and all of your achievements.
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By: blckmoses@sbcglobal.net on 10/16/2008 5:45AM
Another Black sell-out. A long time Black anglophile. She hasn't been Black for so long that she even look like a white woman. Have no love for her or her kind. Like a lot of these Black anglophiles they apply light make-up and lighten their hair. Black celebraties use to be a source of pride, now they are a source of embarassment. Where the Black women at?
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By: Daniel Asamota on 10/16/2008 9:28AM
Never was a big fan of Diahann Carroll but she deserves credit for surviving in Hollywood. Few black entertainers from her era were able to do it.
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By: BROOKLYNQUEEN on 10/16/2008 12:07PM
I applaude Ms. Carroll. I enjoy her work tremendously. I am looking forward to reading her book. "Claudine" was outstanding along with a fantastic cast of actors,it's still one of my favorite movies to date. All of her work is outstanding.
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By: Dr. Lindacb1 on 10/16/2008 7:42PM
Congrats for surviving. Ms. Carroll is by no means a Black Anglo-phile. She is an African American woman with CLASS, something most Blacks know nothing about.
There is nothing white or wanna be white about her. STOP hating. She is just a classy woman with spirituality.
Love you all!!!
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By: Rayshone Baskerville on 10/16/2008 9:04PM
Absolutely beautiful and will always be a classy woman
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By: demillicent on 10/16/2008 10:20PM
5. Another Black sell-out. A long time Black anglophile. She hasn't been Black for so long that she even look like a white woman. Have no love for her or her kind. Like a lot of these Black anglophiles they apply light make-up and lighten their hair. Black celebraties use to be a source of pride, now they are a source of embarassment. Where the Black women at?
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All black women aren't dark. Black women come in all shades. Even if she's white of skin, she can still be of the black race. I get so sick of people worrying about the color of ones skin. Are you angry because she married white men?
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