Rather than using the Mimi and Nikko sex tape as a teachable moment about privacy, permanence and the longevity of Internet decisions, Harvey can't resist transforming that moment into a diatribe about shame and God's plan for women's bodies.
One of the reasons I created GLAM4GOOD was so I could harness the positive aspects of fashion and beauty to celebrate courage and perseverance in the face of great difficulty, tragedy and pain. Nayanda was right, GLAM4GOOD is more than just a makeover -- often it's about honoring and acknowledging everyday heroism and bravery.
Saving up your hard-earned cash to stash away an emergency fund? Well, it can be a hard sell. Spare cash can be hard to come by, and, after all, taking a vacation is a heck of a lot more fun. Or at least a lot of us seem to think so.
Like many military members who survive a sexual assault, the process of reporting the rape and seeking some justice was a long, despairing and ultimately fruitless effort.
We're coming up on one of my favorite times of the year: that time, just after spring breaks out but before summer begins, in which thousands of college graduates are released into the world. And as they go forth we give them lots of advice. The advice varies, sometimes conflicts, but the general idea is: Here is what you need to know in order to succeed in the world. This year my book tour is taking me to a lot of colleges, and my first piece of advice is to start by defining success for yourself -- by being clear about what you want, what you value and what you are about. But to do that, we need to abandon, or at least mitigate, some of the worst practices of the adult world that students are already mired in: burnout, sleep deprivation, stress and anxiety. This is all the more important because this generation is starting out their adult lives burdened with multiple deficits.
"Finding out that the U.S. Army regulations seemed to be geared towards eliminating Black females with natural hair was heartbreaking for me... It pains me to know that an organization that I have sacrificed so much for doesn't accept me in my natural, yet professional state."
If I could speak to the person who killed Angela, I would tell them that I don't have the words to say just how sad I am. I would say, "Look what has happened to us."
Last week, I could only watch on television news as soldiers herded scores of my countrymen on to trucks like livestock, to be driven to detention centers. Women carrying babies struggled to climb onto the cumbersome vehicles, built not for carrying humans but cargo and commodities.
When it comes to rape culture and manifestations of sexual violence against women, as people of color, we find ourselves at the forefront of this plague.
There's a tendency among my friends and others who see me in my element to refer to me as a "tranny," one of the words that have recently been banished from the gay lexicon. Personally, I've always regarded being called a "tranny" not as a slur but as a term of endearment.
What will happen 30 years from now when the litigation my colleagues and I devoted ourselves to has faded from collective memory? Despite reforms, this place remains a prison for children.
The media just love anniversaries. But I'm wondering how many mass media outlets will pick up on a confluence of two such commemorations this coming week -- a 50th and a 20th -- which mark separate major events in the long life of a recently departed global giant.
The question is not who is in charge. Rather, it is how well is the university doing in fulfilling its mission.
With the costs of basic necessities rising and wages stagnating, minimizing unnecessary and wasteful spending is more important than ever.
Why am I writing this? As a single mother, raising two black young men and surrounded by the death of so many young men, I am constantly in search of positive influences that will inspire them, motivate them and keep them on the right path.
Before this past January, I hadn't cried since 1999 and the Denzel movie The Hurricane.
Make no mistake about it, no one behind the scenes is telling 'Real Housewives of Atlanta' star Dwight Eubanks what to do. The Atlanta native went from having a simple cameo as Nene Leakes' scene-stealing "gay boyfriend" to becoming a main cast member on the second season of the hit Bravo reality television series.
"I am not an actor. I was asked to come on and be a part of the show and to be real...I am not the sixth housewife," Eubanks told BV Newswire yesterday.
"If I wanted to be with a woman, I will be with a woman, and if I want to be with a guy, then I will be with a guy," he declared. "I like all fruits, but I do have a problem with [people] dwelling on 'Dwight the gay housewife.' Let's get to know Dwight."
As of late, his no-holds-barred attitude has made his relationships with some of the 'Housewives' stars a bit tense.
"I just don't understand it," he noted. "Some of the other people have problems with me being friends with the other women...Girls harp on situations [like], 'You said this,' or 'You did that' versus saying 'b***h, did you say this?' and going directly to the source of the problem."
But Eubanks isn't holding it against them.
"They perceive me as a b***h. I have nothing but love for all of them."
What many viewers of the successful Bravo television network franchise do not know is that the self-proclaimed style purveyor actually knew Sheree Whitfield and Lisa Wu Hartwell well before becoming fast friends with his close gal pal Leakes.
"I knew Sheree and her husband, Bob," he revealed. "She had a store called Bella Azul, [and] my partner at the time was doing Lisa's hair, and I knew of Lisa when she was going through her divorce situation [with Keith Sweat], but I didn't really meet her until the show."
As for the show's resident vixen, he adds, "I was really more friendly with Greg than Nene, and we grew to be a part of each other's lives, and it grew to being what it was."
These days, the fashionable entrepreneur has grown incredibly fond of the newest 'Housewives' star, Grammy Award-winning singer-songwriter Kandi Burruss.
"I met Kandi this year and never knew about Xscape," Eubanks explained. "I like her as a person, and her mother and I clicked, and before I knew it, I had dinner at their house."
Now, the unlikely pair do dine together often, and according to the former Saks Fifth Avenue style director, they have become his adopted family.
Until now, little has been known about the man that is Dwight Eubanks. Recently he's been a little more open about his past, telling Essence.com that his minister parents beat him for playing with his sister's dolls until his grandmother helped them accept him for who he is. Raised on Atlanta's southside area, Eubanks credits his godfather with nurturing his love for hair by allowing him to apprentice in his salon.
As for his feelings on the show? "The reality show is what it is. We don't have to agree. They have gone through a whole season disagreeing. And agreeing is not reality. I like to move on." There are talks that Eubanks may soon have his very own television show, but until then, he's happy doing what he's been doing for the past 21 years.
"Reality television don't pay no money. I had this life before ['Housewives'] came on, and I have four [mortgage] notes to pay. That's a lot, and I haven't ventured off to doing any new ventures lately," he declared.
He doesn't know what network execs have in mind for his own show, adding, "most days I don't know what to do with myself. I know I am a lot."
Off camera, you can catch him at one of his two successful Purple Door Atlanta salons. "I still do hair every day, and I enjoy being at the shampoo bowls. I like doing everything that I do. This is why I chose this profession."