Rather than using the Mimi and Nikko sex tape as a teachable moment about privacy, permanence and the longevity of Internet decisions, Harvey can't resist transforming that moment into a diatribe about shame and God's plan for women's bodies.
Saving up your hard-earned cash to stash away an emergency fund? Well, it can be a hard sell. Spare cash can be hard to come by, and, after all, taking a vacation is a heck of a lot more fun. Or at least a lot of us seem to think so.
Like many military members who survive a sexual assault, the process of reporting the rape and seeking some justice was a long, despairing and ultimately fruitless effort.
We're coming up on one of my favorite times of the year: that time, just after spring breaks out but before summer begins, in which thousands of college graduates are released into the world. And as they go forth we give them lots of advice. The advice varies, sometimes conflicts, but the general idea is: Here is what you need to know in order to succeed in the world. This year my book tour is taking me to a lot of colleges, and my first piece of advice is to start by defining success for yourself -- by being clear about what you want, what you value and what you are about. But to do that, we need to abandon, or at least mitigate, some of the worst practices of the adult world that students are already mired in: burnout, sleep deprivation, stress and anxiety. This is all the more important because this generation is starting out their adult lives burdened with multiple deficits.
There's a tendency among my friends and others who see me in my element to refer to me as a "tranny," one of the words that have recently been banished from the gay lexicon. Personally, I've always regarded being called a "tranny" not as a slur but as a term of endearment.
"Finding out that the U.S. Army regulations seemed to be geared towards eliminating Black females with natural hair was heartbreaking for me... It pains me to know that an organization that I have sacrificed so much for doesn't accept me in my natural, yet professional state."
If I could speak to the person who killed Angela, I would tell them that I don't have the words to say just how sad I am. I would say, "Look what has happened to us."
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These days when Selena Blake thinks about her native land, Jamaica, there are no images of pristine beaches and sunny skies that come to mind. Instead, she sees the ugly face of homophobia and transphobia that continues to stain Jamaica's image.
Fourteen years ago, a then-15 year-old Monica Denise Arnold burst on the music scene in 1995 with her 'Miss Thang' debut – making history as the youngest singer to ever have two consecutive chart-topping hits on the Billboard Hot R&B Singles chart.
And since then, she's had her fair share of ups and downs.
Today, her personal and professional life are on display with a new BET reality show, titled 'Monica: Still Standing.' The mother of two sat down with the BV Newswire to chat about where she is in her life and how she was talked into putting her life on display for the world.
"As artists, the media glorifies what happens to us, but they don't tell the kids how we made it through," the Atlanta native said "This show altogether was a blessing...it will encourage the kids to keep pushing through trials and tribulations."
The 'Don't Take It Personal' singer said that she never thought about having a reality television show, but is "excited and grateful" for the opportunity to tell her story and reach people.
And although she and Keyshia Cole are friends and even recorded a song together, Monica clarified that 'Still Standing' will differ from 'Keyshia Cole: The Way It is.'
"Keyshia is a really dear friend of mine and we have a lot of similarities and we also have a lot of differences too, which makes our shows independently great," she said.
She rattled off a few of the key contrasts between their BET programs, "My family comes from the country in Newnan, GA and are all extremely close. My first cousin manages me. I have two children,"
Separate from the personal differences between the two entertainers, it is clear that the timing of Monica's new docu-drama series comes on the heels of the Grammy Award-winner's musical comeback of sorts. Her last album, 2006's 'The Makings of Me' included the hip-hop friendly 'Everytime Da Beat Drop,' which remains her least successful single to date.
Now with her upcoming fifth album, which is due in stores this Dec., the 29 year-old is hoping to return to her R&B roots.
"People want to hear music of substance from me and they still want to hear me sing, that was the only error in that particular album. I still appreciate the million people who bought that CD. It didn't do what the other CDs did, but it was a good learning experience," she noted. "Now, what I do is, if I don't feel it, then I don't record it."
Her J Records release, also titled 'Still Standing,' includes a song produced by Polow Da Don and featuring T-Pain, which she described as a track "about a guy and girl that were in a relationship and now that they are apart are critiquing the other person's mate." Included on the album is also a ballad called 'Here I Am,' that Monica says is "more true to who I am." She's also hoping to release a song with her fiancée and the father of her two sons, 'Umma Do Me' rapper Rocko.
Ultimately, Monica said wants the world to know that she's survived the difficulties of the music business and hardships in relationships, but she is here to stay.
"'Still Standing' is two words that if you put them together signify strength and I wanted that to be the basis of the show. I don't want them to feel sorry for me or like I'm the victim. I would like for them to see what I have learned as I've grown. I understand the mistakes I've made and I've moved on and that's where my strength comes from."
"All I can do is focus on being Monica the person and Monica the artist, and conveying that through my music."
'Monica: Still Standing' airs Tuesdays at 10 PM on BET.