Fourteen years ago, a then-15 year-old Monica Denise Arnold burst on the music scene in 1995 with her 'Miss Thang' debut – making history as the youngest singer to ever have two consecutive chart-topping hits on the Billboard Hot R&B Singles chart.
And since then, she's had her fair share of ups and downs.
Today, her personal and professional life are on display with a new BET reality show, titled 'Monica: Still Standing.' The mother of two sat down with the BV Newswire to chat about where she is in her life and how she was talked into putting her life on display for the world.
"As artists, the media glorifies what happens to us, but they don't tell the kids how we made it through," the Atlanta native said "This show altogether was a blessing...it will encourage the kids to keep pushing through trials and tribulations."
The 'Don't Take It Personal' singer said that she never thought about having a reality television show, but is "excited and grateful" for the opportunity to tell her story and reach people.
And although she and Keyshia Cole are friends and even recorded a song together, Monica clarified that 'Still Standing' will differ from 'Keyshia Cole: The Way It is.'
"Keyshia is a really dear friend of mine and we have a lot of similarities and we also have a lot of differences too, which makes our shows independently great," she said.
She rattled off a few of the key contrasts between their BET programs, "My family comes from the country in Newnan, GA and are all extremely close. My first cousin manages me. I have two children," 
Separate from the personal differences between the two entertainers, it is clear that the timing of Monica's new docu-drama series comes on the heels of the Grammy Award-winner's musical comeback of sorts. Her last album, 2006's 'The Makings of Me' included the hip-hop friendly 'Everytime Da Beat Drop,' which remains her least successful single to date.
Now with her upcoming fifth album, which is due in stores this Dec., the 29 year-old is hoping to return to her R&B roots.
"People want to hear music of substance from me and they still want to hear me sing, that was the only error in that particular album. I still appreciate the million people who bought that CD. It didn't do what the other CDs did, but it was a good learning experience," she noted. "Now, what I do is, if I don't feel it, then I don't record it."
Her J Records release, also titled 'Still Standing,' includes a song produced by Polow Da Don and featuring T-Pain, which she described as a track "about a guy and girl that were in a relationship and now that they are apart are critiquing the other person's mate." Included on the album is also a ballad called 'Here I Am,' that Monica says is "more true to who I am." She's also hoping to release a song with her fiancée and the father of her two sons, 'Umma Do Me' rapper Rocko.
Ultimately, Monica said wants the world to know that she's survived the difficulties of the music business and hardships in relationships, but she is here to stay.
"'Still Standing' is two words that if you put them together signify strength and I wanted that to be the basis of the show. I don't want them to feel sorry for me or like I'm the victim. I would like for them to see what I have learned as I've grown. I understand the mistakes I've made and I've moved on and that's where my strength comes from."
"All I can do is focus on being Monica the person and Monica the artist, and conveying that through my music."
'Monica: Still Standing' airs Tuesdays at 10 PM on BET.



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By: Tasha on 10/30/2009 10:04AM
Monica is amazing! We have watched her grow into the beautiful young woman & mother that she is today.
Monica speaks very well! I was proud to hear that on her first episode.
I also like Kandi Burrus from Atlanta Housewives, formally of the group Xscape, but when you compare the two...Kandi sounds very country/ghetto but I love her to death!
Big ups to both sisters doing their things!!!
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By: poochie on 11/03/2009 9:33PM
@ Shellfish789...its OBVIOUS that u have NOT heard monica speak because outside of the song 'Everytime The Beat Drop' Monica has always conducted herself with much class and shes one of the most articulate celebs ive heard. and again outside of the song she has NEVER projected this 'ghetto hood-rat' image that u speak of
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By: Sheryl on 11/01/2009 10:21PM
I like Monica's "realness", meaning she doesn't have a public face and a private face. Unlike Brandy who lied to the world so save face. Monica has always been comfortable in her own skin. While, I do like her, I don't do reality shows. She has my support in spirit, and I am glad she is "still standing"
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By: J. Cannon Jackson on 12/07/2009 11:46PM
Is this the one that killed her boyfriend and said he comitted suicide, but he was shot on the right side of his face and his mom said he was left handed. No i do not want to see her show. And no we don't all talk like that. Some of us are literate, articulate, educated and intelligent. We can read, write and spell and know how to construct a legible sentence.
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By: M5. 5W@99@L!0U$ on 1/03/2010 7:06PM
ACTUALLY MONICA STILL STANDING IS A GREAT SHOW BASICALLY ITS ABOUT WAT SHE BEEN THREW AND HOW FAR HER MUSIC HAS TOOK HER IN HER LIFETIME.SO I LOVE TO WATCH IT.....
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