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Marian Wright Edelman: Still Hungry in America
Recently, Scott – a divorcee and single mother – started wearing a new hat; as a relationship columnist for Essence magazine.
In the April edition of the best-selling black women's monthly, the 'Hate On Me' singer tackles interracial love with a provocative entry titled 'The Wince.'
"In our past, if a black man even looked at a white woman, he would have been lynched," Scott wrote in the 'I'm Just Sayin'' column. Her thought-provoking entry has engaged a heated dialogue on the Time Inc.-owned magazine's website.
Black Voices caught up to Scott to ask her about the article -- while she was in New York City making the rounds promoting her new movie, 'Why Did I Get Married Too?' Here's a sneak peek of what Scott said prompted her to take on the hot topic.
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By: algie on 3/24/2010 12:17AM
as always jill keeps it real.i love the hair too she is rocking in the clip
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By: Mike on 3/27/2010 10:12PM
King Blu you said it all and then some.Thaks my brother.
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By: fiona thomas on 9/10/2010 1:42AM
Thank you Jill,
It has nothing to do with a black woman hating on white women, it the simple fact of history. not holding any grudges...but there was a time when black men couldn't even look the way of a white woman. And at the same time they were "breeding" blacks for children then stripping the families apart. I feel like we owe it to ourselves, black men and women to find what was taken from us as a people. no direspect to other cultures. It's just the history there and I just feel like to successful black men, we sisters represent something bad. Or where they came from. The bad times in their lives, the struggles,the 'hood and all that goes with it. As though getting with a white woman is the "Bling". Meaning showing people they made it. That's why I thank God for Pres. Obama. He's got his Sistah and they're madly in love, that is evident. It definately hurts when I see that, black man/white woman. Not because I want the brother, but because it has deprived our black culture of an opportunity to heal ourselves of those past hurts.
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By: King Blu on 3/25/2010 11:22AM
The Guilt and The Cringe.
Thank you Queen Jill, for having the courage to speak from your heart.
I have been vilified time and time again for my position that the best thing for a Black Woman is a Black Man.
I understand that love can be found anywhere, but to be honest,
it hurts a little every time I see a Sister with a white man.
Even if I'm not attracted to her.
I think about our great grandmothers' forgotten tears, I think of the Willie Lynch Letter that had as one of its precepts,
Communicate through the black woman. Give all orders through her, this will take any small amount of power or authority away from her "man"and damage their natural order..She will come to you for everything and him for nothing...
It hurts when I think of how we as men could not protect our women from Massa and his evil acts.
How we had to take so much just to remain alive and a part of our womans' lives...
If I chose to marry my Beautiful FutureQueen,
Jill Scott,
Massa could take her on her wedding night, before me?
There were more dead brothers than history says...trust me.
I cringe when I think of my own rationalizations concerning a Sisters' choice,
"Oh she wanted a man with good credit" How dumb a thought is that?
Yet it happens...There are Brothers out there with good credit, that's not the point. Perception is.
And for most perception is their reality.
And that reality is that they usually have more already, why should they get you too?
You should be a prize for ME.
I was with my beautiful Queen 21 years before she died in my arms in 2008, on our daughters' 19th birthday.
She wasn't even sick, just wouldn't wake up, right there in the bed.
She used to say,
"I've never been with a white man", like she was proud of that fact.
I know that I was...
(She went to an exclusive private school)
At her Homegoing, I had her casket pushed out to HATE ON ME by Jill Scott and had the whole song play before the ceremony started.
Joni was my Queen and I miss her so much...
I think about the doll test that has little girls still choosing the white doll over the black doll.
I think about Avatar, which was a beautiful movie, aesthetically, but the same old
"let's make up a scenario where a sister chooses a white man over a black man"
This time a ten foot blue brother with dredlocs loses his woman to a crippled white man...
hooray for hollywood.
I think of the indignities the female character in Monsters Ball went through to end up still bending over for Massa....Never saw the movie.
Clips and reviews were enough to send me in the other direction,
but...OSCAR!
The fact that Superman, Batman, Santa, J.C., Prince Charming and just about every other "hero" is white
has to have an effect on some little girls growing up.
This warped standard of beauty is seen in every aspect of American Life.
From Rihanna saying she thinks that white men are more attractive to the first negro Princess in Disney's history was not allowed to have a negro Prince Charming.
I think of our forgotten
Hebrew Culture, which says that I should marry someone of my tribe, Judah (Y'hadah)
All this, plus love being colorblind and the negative image of black men in every form of media can play a part in a Sisters' decision,
but the Guilt and the Cringe remain,
and it's involuntary....So,
I LOVE to hear Black Women stand up and say they love Black Men.
Thank you Jill.
My FutureQueen....
King Blu
King Blu
(BnBashath BnYaqob)
the leader of the
Righteous HipHop Group
Southern Kingdom
(www.myspace.com/southernkingdom)
is an artist, actor, writer,
radio personality, community activist,
widower and father
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By: renee on 3/24/2010 10:47AM
well hurt on because this white man i am married to...isnt going anywhere.... and love is love and it can ve found anywhere when you least expect it....thats the problem with black women.... waiting around for a so called goof black man when they should be looking for a GOOD MAN... no matter the color.... because tjhats what it boils down to... if the man is a good one and the love in it... you nerve no whats waiting for you around the next corner... a woman black woman would be doen right nuts.. to pass up love because the mans not black...fu-k black... or white or whatever its all about LOVE
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By: wackiblackie on 3/24/2010 1:56PM
Thank you, thank you , thank you king Blu:)
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By: SHERYL on 3/24/2010 1:54PM
I LOVE BLACK MEN!!!!!
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By: Sus7637 on 3/25/2010 11:21AM
KING BLU: YOU CAN CRY US A RIVER LIKE THE WATER FALLS OVER THE NIAGRA, BUT YOU CAN'T PLACE BLAME WHERE BLAME DOESN'T FALL (ON BLK WOMAN) THATS THE PROBLEM WITH YOU BLK MEN TO THIS DAY: WILL NOT.... AND REFUSING TO FACE RESPONSIBLITY WHERE IT FALLS,(ON YOU ALL) LYING, SELF HATING, AND POINTIN THE FINGER AS A POOR EXCUSE ON YOURSELVES AS BLK MEN TOWARDS BLK WOMAN... FOR TURNING ON YOUR BACKS ON BLK WOMAN AND SLAVING AND WORSHIPING NON BLACK WOMAN.
ALL THAT PRE HISTORIC 300 YRS AGO TALK ABOUT WHAT THE WHITE ANCESTORS DONE TO BLK PPL, BLK MEN, BLK WMN.... YOU CAN'T HOLD GRUDGES TOWARDS EVERY LAST WHITE PERSON, WHEN THEY'RE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR SOMETHING THAT THEY WERE NO WHERE AROUND FOR BECAUSE THEY'RE ALL WHITE! (THATS INSANE) NO RACE IS PERFECT WITH GOOD AND BAD ROTTEN APPLES IN ALL OF THEM. SPIT AT ME IF YOU WANT FOR BEING TRUTHFUL, BUT IM NOT GONNA LIE TO PLZ ANYBODY BECAUSE THEY EXPECT ME TO FEEL LIKE THEM BECAUSE OF THEIR HATE AND GRUDGE HOLDINGS!
DONT EXPECT BLK WOMAN TO SIT BACK AND WATCH EVERY BLK MAN HEAD FOR THE WHITE HOLE AND NOT HAVE A HAPPY CONTENT MARRIAGE AND LIFE OF THEIR OWN. "WERE WOMAN TOO AND HAVE FEELINGS LIKE THE REST OF THEM,AND WANT SOMEBODY TO LOVE AND SHARE WHAT THEY SHARE. (EVEN IF HE AIN'T BLK)
YOUR HEAD IS STUCK IN THE PRE HISTORIC TIMES ABOUT THESE PPLS ANCESTORS.... AND HOLDING GRUDGES AND HATE TOWARDS THEM BECAUSE OF HATEFUL EVIL PPL LIKE THEY WERE (AND LIKE ALOT OF 'EM TODAY) WHO'S IT HELPING? ITS POISON, POISON, POISON!
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By: King Blu on 3/25/2010 12:06PM
Sus, did you even read what I wrote?
How on earth can I blame Black Women?
I love Black Women, was with one for 21 years, raised 3 kids together,
two in college, one on the way.
It is our (Black Men) fault to some degree,
I never said that it wasn't.
THE GUILT AND THE CRINGE
is all about we as men not doing what we should have, IF we could have.
Queen, love whomever you want,
just know there are some of us out here
that want you. That need you
and refuse to settle for anyone BUT you.
I will say that 300 years ago is not prehistoric
and if we never deal with what was done to us, we can NEVER move past it...
I never said I hold grudges against all white people.
That's crazy talk.
Would my great grandmother want me to forget how she was raped and her husband murdered in front of her?
How her baby was stolen from her and used as Gator Bait in the swamps?
Momma, I can never ever forget these things.
Please don't be mad at me because I remember.
Don't be mad because those things still hurt
some of our people.
We have been done wrong from jump and people are upset that we remember?
What about the ones that did it?
A Nazi just got found guilty in Germany for acts he did 66 years ago!
Wrong is wrong, but I wasn't even pointing fingers,
I was just saying I love Black Women and it bothers me to see my Sisters choose to not be with us.
They have every reason in the world to NOT want us.
From news to reality. From Movies to videos..
I understand Queen, find your joy where you can, love who ever you want.
Just know that there are some Black Men out here that love you, respect you and want you.
Want you to be with them...
We do love you, honestly.....
It's just hard to be what we want and need to be,
especially nowadays...
But I do love you, Black Woman. I do.
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By: Marian on 3/25/2010 10:44PM
No, Thank U King Blu,
I am a 65 yrs old BW who has and always will love BM. I used to work in the Emerg room as an Rn. The time that I work there and in the RR, I was the only Black there. many tmes I was asked by EMT's and some Doctors to spend time with them. I always said NO! and they could not understand that. I explained to them that I was not prejudice but I was very Black origin and loved BM only. I was raised in the time when we were treated like dogs, but throught it all Black Families stood strong together. The BW , know matter what they went through, they always stuck by their Men know matter what. I was raised with 5 sisters and one brother. We did not have much but we loved each other and was loved by our parents. Now it seen like the Black Family is disappearing and the way BM disrespect BW for WM causes me to grieve. All I can say is each to his own but in the process of choosing your mate, whether they be Man or woman, please donot look for excuses or talk bad about BM or BW if they chooses another Race. As for me and mine, from this day until God call me home, I will always love Bm. There is none like them. I got married 3yrs ago to a wonderful BM who I thank God for blessing me with. He is my Godly partner, friend, lover and sparing partner.I have his back and he has mines. We donot have a lot of riches but we are rich in our love for each other. Thank you, King Blu for your insight and love of BW. May God truly bless you.
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