I've remarked at how many people I overhear at open houses doing linguistic backflips in order to gather the crucial demographic info they need from a real estate agent while trying not to sound like a total xenophobic monster. It's a pretty amusing thing to behold, especially when I'm also in the room -- presumably judging them.
Just like school districts had to do with segregation in Brown v. Board of Education, the NFL should have to explain why it's OK to treat Natives different than every other race.
ll recognized that Brown's death, though significant, exposed deep-seated problems. To many I met, using education as a means of advancing racial equality, peaceful responses to conflict, and overall social justice had now become critical priorities.
If you are looking to increase your coverage and your employer provides benefits, start there. Many companies will have different options and perks as part of their benefits package.
There needs to be a cultural change with the league's front office. It can no longer be the dirty little secret that no one wants to talk about. We're talking about it and we're talking loudly about it.
The premise is simple: borrow the amount you need plus a fee per $100 borrowed now, pay it back when your next paycheck arrives. Unfortunately, what often ends up happening is that the borrower can't pay back the amount borrowed within 14 days.
Let us look back at that transformative, defining moment of the historic Mississippi Summer to guide us toward a better future. Let there be a "Ferguson Fall," where we put a plan in place to ensure that every eligible person is registered to vote and educated on the importance of doing so.
I'm not a formal person, but there are certain expressions that pervade our cultures that I want eliminated or at least greatly curtailed.
My commitment to "me time" dates for the last 16 years has taught me to trust the choices I've made in my life and to be clear about what is most important. Spending that time was about doing something to enrich my life vs. just maintaining it.
Already I have heard some say they don't like it because it establishes new stereotypes or it presents an unrealistic view on Black America. Black-ish is new and it's forthcoming episodes will probably be controversial. It WILL make us look at ourselves regardless if you're ages 5 to 80 or white or black.
Think tracking your spending is all there is to money management? You might notice your debt shrinking and your savings growing, but you could be doing a lot more to fatten your piggy bank.
An inheritance can bring up conflicting emotions, placing the positive of financial gain against the sadness of losing a loved one. Complicating the situation further, certain inheritances -- such as an IRA -- are more difficult to sort out than others.
NAS is a symbol of hope for so many who come from broken homes, single parent households, those who are caught up in the system or on the edge of madness and insanity.
This is the "blackest" my hair has ever been, in my life and I freaking love it. So do the boys. I promise I've been hit on more in the past 30 days than I have been in three months. Advantage, me.
In my opinion, has done two things: showed we blacks what is possible and inspired us as a people to want greater -- to be hopeful. But I really feel we have false vision that racism is dead.
If my childhood had been blissful, if my father had been more interested in raising me than in reading the New York Times, and again, if I had been enough of something to hold his attention, then I might have never found my love for travel, for dreaming, and yes, for stories. And that, too, is part of my childhood story just as much as his neglect and disinterest.
On the surface, "A Change is Gonna Come" doesn't sound particularly challenging, especially in light of the defiant freedom songs that rocked the movement in 1964. It quickly became one of the anthems of the movement and music historian Dave Marsh said that "A Change is Gonna Come" "ranks with Martin Luther King's best speeches as a verbal encapsulation of the changes black perspective underwent in the Sixties."
Black entrepreneurship is on a steady rise, with more African Americans deciding to go into business for themselves. But embracing your entrepreneurial spirit does not always require you to start from scratch.
For Brooklyn-born Tionna Smalls, playing matchmaker to TLC singer Rozonda "Chilli" Thomas hasn't been much different from doling out advice to lesser-known women.
Smalls has been professionally giving her two cents to anyone who will listen for some three years now, and her new VH1 show is simply providing a different forum.
"I wrote an independent book called 'Girl Get Your Mind Right,' and I got an advice column at Gawker.com, but I don't consider myself an advice columnist," she told BV Newswire this week.
Smalls encountered a great deal of criticism for what she describes as not being "proper" enough while at Gawker, which eventually led to her column being pulled by the Web site's creator and managing editor, Nick Denton.
"People said I was faking it for the white people," she revealed. "Before I got that column, I went nine months without one check, so the first time I got a check I was not thinking about the ins and outs of the business [but], would I have done it the same way again? No, I would use less Ebonics."
She says people at Gawker became jealous of her popularity and that Denton canceled her column abruptly because he said the site wasn't "going in that direction anymore."
But where one door shuts, another one opens.
The Discovery Channel signed Smalls to a development deal and though it didn't pan out, VH1 called her last year to help find the Grammy Award winning former chart-topper a man.
"What people are going to like about 'What Chilli Wants' is [how] Chilli and I have different personalities and the difficulty is finding a guy that meets her standards," Smalls said. "A lot of times she is not over a lot of things with stuff in the past, but I can't judge her. That's what it is."
But things between the two women have been heating up – and not in a good way – in a very public forum. Smalls took to Twitter last week and indirectly lashed out at Chilli.
She wrote, "I may be nobody, but seriously, you're nobody either but a glimpse from Christmas past."
Smalls added, "You and I both know who made you relevant then dissed and dismissed your ass. I didn't eff nobody in the game to get to where I'm at."
When questioned about whether she was beefing with Chilli, she let loose: "Me and Chilli, we have two different personalities and sometimes in this business, older people feel like you should know your role. But what they don't understand [is] I am not going to change my attitude for nobody."
"I got over a few things over the past few weeks,' Smalls confessed. "I was not her friend before the show. I got to know her and she got to know me. People are making it a bigger deal than what it is."
And though she is staying mum about what exactly set her off to lash out at the person she's been advising on love, it definitely seems like their working relationship is over.
"I spoke to her after the show," she said. "That's it, and we aren't besties. We did our job for the show. This is what it was. I had to find her a man and she had to listen."
Ultimately, Smalls hopes that women with huge lists of what they want from a man understand that there will be some things that are more important than others.
"He could have a big ding-ding, but no job," she stated.
She also urges women who find a man they love to maintain a hobby.
"A lot of times, women get a man and lose their whole self. You got to keep yourself and a hobby. That's the main thing women need to do."
Smalls said she won't be playing professional matchmaker anytime soon.
"People are writing [me saying] they will pay me to hook them up," she laughed. "I'm not a matchmaker. I'm just trying to tell her real advice, but [maybe it is] something I should look into. They think I'm the black Patti [Stanger] now. "
In addition to building a new Web site, TionnaSmallsOnline.com, she's opening a "diva store" called Lovey's in Brooklyn, which will be filled with her signature hats, jewelry and bags.
Smalls is behind the scenes working on a few television ventures and plans to re-release her book 'Girl, Get Your Mind Right' with a major publisher later this year.