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"Let me say this, if you don't do that, she'll find someone that will. And in these days it might be her best friend. If your girl is clean and deserving, why not? The best sex is between two givers... that's off the chain. If you know how to do it properly, you will thoroughly enjoy the fruits of your labor."
-- Grammy Award-nominated singer Raheem DeVaughn opens up on women receiving oral sex. Recently, the Jive Records recording artist became the subject of much fodder for his new sexually charged music video, 'She's Single.' (Vibe)
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By: Unbelievable on 12/03/2010 12:27AM
@nomoxcuses:
From past experiences in working with young men and women, I find that most young men are more aware and afraid of the dangers of contracting sexually transmitted diseases than lots of young women. Why, I have even encountered some young men who wanted to use a condom;whereas, some young women tried to encourage them to do otherwise. Since most young men make their rounds moreso than most young women, it would only stand to reason that these young men would be more circumspect of their partners and aware of the dangers lerking out there. On the other hand, some young women have told me that they want to experience the "real" thing without any fear of trepidation. I have also encountered some young men who wanted to abstain from teenage sex because of their religious and moral upbringing and their girlfriends would kick them to the curb because they wanted to engage in teenage sex. I have also encountered some young girls who engaged in indiscriminate sex with lots of young men simply because they wanted to be popular with the young men. We live in a world whereby many women have now become the sexual aggressor. Men have always been able to sow their oaks...so to speak. Now young women are permitted to do likewise and that makes matters even worse. The prevailing attitude among most young men and women is that everybody is doing it, so why not me??
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By: SWEET P on 12/03/2010 9:36AM
I am totally convinced now, we are living in the days where people will call right wrong, and wrong right, Our people do Perish for lack of knowledge.!! Is he married?
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By: Rene on 12/03/2010 9:44AM
I like the song but I do think the video was a little much(I thought this was a porn flick for a min).... but hey,if your a RESPONSIBLE adult then do whatever pleases you. I dont think there is anything wrong with being a sexual individual. Its human nature.
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By: Clinesha18 on 12/04/2010 1:43PM
Thaaaank Youuuuuu! What is wrong with these people? It is as though they are promoting complete abstinence. If these so called adults aren't smart enough to know how to be safe and enjoy sex, then they are probably too dumb to be having sex. Be safe? Ofcourse!!!
Do these people think Raheem is a monk? He's a man who enjoys sex. What the H-E-double hockey sticks is wrong with that? I bet 1/2 of these blog bashers opening their mouths on here, have had their mounths on somebody else's JUNK before too!
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By: ann on 12/03/2010 12:07PM
u people r so uptight and funny. i'll never tell on myself lol. yeah keep it private and in the bedroom......but remember the brother is right....some ot the best head u gonna get is from a person that wants to give it not because they have to give it! lol ok now yall may pass judgement on me!
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By: decaturdog on 12/03/2010 12:06PM
Yukky! I can't imagine anything more ghastly.
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By: aj on 12/03/2010 2:09PM
omg, please dont bombard us with this. this is after a week long of reading about hiv awareness. How in the hell can you justify promoting this type of behavior. iF a married couple want to do this, fine. why do we have to read about it. if gay couples were on here talking about it and airing videos, there would be another uproar.
why is it ok for unmarried couples to have sex if they are CLEAN* JESUS, PLEASE STOP THE FORNICATING AND LEAVE THE SOFT PORNOGRAPHY FOR THE PORN SITES. WHO CARES IF PEOPLE DO ORAL SEX. THE REAL QUESTION IS, WILL THESE COUPLES TAKE CARE OF THE CHILDREN THEY CONCEIVE? I KNOW ITS ABOUT ORAL SEX BUT THAT USUALLY LEADS TO INTERCOURSE AND IF IT DOESNT, WHY ARE SO MANY STRAIGHT BLACK PEOPLE BECOMING INFECTED WITH hiv? HYPOCRITICAL HETEROSEXUALS...ESPECIALLY IN THE BLACK COMMUNITY
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By: aj on 12/03/2010 2:17PM
I watched the video, also known as porn...and didnt see a wedding ring 1. It must be so cool to be heterosexual, black and able to have unprotected sex anytime you want and put it in a video to symbolize how cool you are and socially welcoming it is. HIV wont touch you. pregnancy either. wow you are so lucky! dumb ass. who would purchase this CD....lolol id rather buy a bootleg copy of cry baby KANYE
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By: Miss.V on 12/03/2010 9:35PM
I'M SPEECHLESS I CAN'T BELIEVE THAT THIS VIDEO WAS ALLOWED ON TV!!!I HAVE A 15 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER AND I WOULD HATE FOR HER TO SEE THIS BULLS**T.WE HAVE ENOUGH PROBLEMS GOING ON WITH OUR YOUTH...TEEN PREGNANCY...AIDS...DRUGS...AND VIOLENCE.THIS SICKEN ME!!!IF THIS IS WHAT MR.DEVAUGHN LOVE TO DO IT'S ALL GOOD BUT...THAT'S BETWEEN HIM AND HER LEAVE THAT S**T IN YOUR BEDROOM DON'T EXPOSE ARE KIDS TO THAT S**t!!!!
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By: Safety First on 12/03/2010 9:46PM
While all you people were going through the HIV awareness stuff did not one of you hear anything about oral dams (dental dams)? They are specifically for this purpose and if you can't find one, you can make your own with a condom. I'm not saying this to promote oral sex but I am realistic enough to know that whether I like it or not people are GOING to have sex. It would be a wonderful world if people practiced abstinence and waited for one specific person to give themselves to but we don't live in a perfect world and a lot of people don't have sex with just one partner. Yes I think practicing abstinence should be repeatedly taught to people young and old but I'm also realistic enough to know that its not always going to happen so why not teach them safety along with abstinence. Also, I hate to say this but teenagers are practicing safer sex than men and women over the age of 50. This was just on tv yesterday. So while people are so up in arms about our teenagers, they really should be reminding the older generation that they are not immune to HIV (and other sexually transmitted diseases) as well and they also need to cover it up or practice abstinence. Don't talk the talk if you're not willing to walk the walk. Furthermore, men have been getting oral sex forever and no one has ever made a fuss about it. I'm sorry but I don't know a male who would turn it down. However, now that there are women wanting it it seems to be a big deal. I don't get it. As far as Raheem's music, I think he could have done without this type of video. I feel you should be confident in the music you put out instead of using gimmicks like this to get your music to sell.
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